How to Deal With Wanting Acceptance | Vibrant Womanhood

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Welcome back to another Bible study, my lovelies. I’m so delighted to see you! Grab your favorite cup of tea (or coffee), curl up in a cozy chair and join the circle of Vibrant Womanhood. Okay, so now that we’re past that stuff, let’s get to the goodies!

One of the Most Basic Things

I’d say the most sought after thing throughout time and history is the longing to be loved. It is an innate desire that each one of has within us from the day we are born whether or not we have even thought about it! From that most certainly comes the desire to be accepted. It’s perfectly natural and nothing to be ashamed of. We like to be liked (introverts too! ๐Ÿ™‚ ).

There are a lot of times throughout our days when we may feel alone, like no one cares, or don’t think we have any friends. Sometimes in pursuing God, we lose everything when others don’t understand. We all make sacrifices. “Do people think that’s weird?” “What do they think of that?” I’ve asked myself that a thousand times, wondering if those I know really think good of me. You probably have too. It’s a quite natural thing and the dooming fear of not being liked can be a quite annoying little devil.

Does it Really Matter?

Are these desires good, or are they some more of those evil desires that we are born with and can’t seem to conquer? Actually, I’d dare to say that the answer to both would be, “yes”.

God is love. It’s that simple. We long for him which also means longing for his love. We need to love and to be loved. It is so important. Where the “evil little monster” comes into the picture, is when we cause this to consume our thoughts and minds and become self-centered people who think we have to be noticed and deserve to be loved. None of us deserve it, but we desperately need it.

When You Feel That No One Accepts You. When You Think That No One is There For You.

First of all, let me kindly remind you that you are never alone. No matter how alone you are physically, Jesus is always there for you. He is still there even when He is silent. He loves each of us even before we love Him and when we love Him back! That’s amazing.

“As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love.”ย  (John 15:9)

When there truly is no one around you that cares, that may be a strong sign that it is time to move on. Time to let go of what you know and surround yourself with people that will uplift you, encourage you, and be there for you. This may be moving to a different part of the planet, but it also may mean just opening your eyes to the opportunities that are right around you. Jesus doesn’t want you to feel depressed. He wants you to be free as a bird. And that’s exactly what he’s fixing to do.

You don’t always feel that God is right there in the room, and that’s okay. Just know that He is anyway whether he’s talking or moving or sitting silent while you prepare to go answer the door. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Let’s Sum This Up

I’ve struggled with the fear of what “others think” for years. It has kept me up at night as my mind replays slightly embarrassing incidents (why do those moments plague me forever? ๐Ÿ˜‰ ). I would lay there and pray that that person (or persons) wasn’t weirded out. I hated this and wished I could just change myself to be like everyone else. (They didn’t do anything embarrassing – ahem- cough- they probably thought they did!). In the end, God is good and looking back I know for a fact that those things actually pushed me to achieve greater heights in my passions and I’m better off for it. Nonetheless, I would love not to have to struggle to get there. ๐Ÿ˜‰

When we’re not accepted for doing a certain thing or believing certain things, or just being, that hurts. Let’s be real. I can’t change the next person (annoyingly enough! ) and it’s a good thing or it’d mean they had the power to change me.

I’m not going to tell you to ignore the pain and I’m definitely not going to tell you to “just get over it”. That’s nearly impossible and doesn’t help a thing. You can pray for that person, give them a smile or a hug, or whatever you know you can do. Be Jesus to them in whatever way you can. If they don’t seem to notice the effort, that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that it was useless. If nothing else, it can help us heal to do something sweet for a person who is sour.

And if you ever need a listening ear to rant, cry, or just talk random heart things to, shoot me an e-mail. I’m here, and I know many other women of the faith that would always accept you no matter what you’re like. That’s the beauty of what Jesus does. It’s not just you and me – it’s all of us! We’re here together in spirit, connected by the unity of God, family always and forever!

Have a beautiful rest of your week!

xoxo

Melody

 

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How to deal with wanting exceptance

Quote of the Week | #4 & #5

Hey ya’ll! Here I am back from a little blogging break. I wasn’t planning to stay away forever in case you were starting to worry! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Blogging actually takes a surprising amount of brain energy. But I say it’s totally worth if I can help ya’ll live better and more beautiful lives… and now I’m back quite prepared, refreshed, and energized. We have to take care ourselves in order to help others. It’s important.

Sooo… Quote of the Week, here we are again! Even better, we have two quotes for this week which are quite related. Need inspiration to get off your lazy bum and just do it? Read on! ๐Ÿ˜€

Quote of the Week

I can’t agree more! Actually, that’s why I’m back. We can’t always wait around for that “perfect” moment. Sometimes Jesus has to give me a little nudge (ahem – okay, maybe more than a little… ๐Ÿ˜‰ ). Don’t let that little blue underlined word in the quote below hold you back. Stick it under your chair and leave it there! Continue reading “Quote of the Week | #4 & #5”

A Glimpse into My Novel: Journey to Love

A Glimpse into my NovelIt’s been quite a long while since I’ve given you an update about the book I’m writing, Journey to Love. You can read that post here! At the time I was fighting writer’s block and pretty much laid the book aside for a while. Recently, I have found renewed inspiration to complete the novel and get it where it’s supposed to go: into your hands. Part 1 is complete and Part 2 (definitely the longest!) is well under way.

Coming from upbringings of pain and rejection, Kirk and Julie discover a love that is far deeper than anything they ever imagined, and redemption far greater than they had ever wished for. They were good people, but God had called them to be great. Through the trial and testing of their relationship, they found forgiveness, love and freedom. The same freedom that sets sunsets on flame and turns the world upside; the powerful hand of God.

In anticipation of this book’s release (which is still months off), I am giving a glimpse and taste of what is coming.

It is (ah – will be) a great resource for teenagers and adults alike to rejoice in the beauty of life and be a fresh reminder of the most powerful force which is love – Jesus’ love! Continue reading “A Glimpse into My Novel: Journey to Love”

Quote of the Week | #3

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Hmm… how many times do we catch ourselves being grumpy because someone else is grumpy? Uh-huh, thought so. Now let’s switch that around. How many times do you smile when you see someone else smile? It works both ways! They’re both very contagious – just saying. ๐Ÿ™‚

(Did you just smile? ๐Ÿ˜‰ )

What are the things you do to change your corner of the world (even the small things are big enough!)?

 

Cultivating Truth into Everyday Existence | Vibrant Womanhood

Vibrant Womanhood Bible StudyOften times the hardest thing to do is what we don’t want to do (duh!). It’s especially hard when what we need to do is sure to affect normal routine, make waves, or even put a strain on close relationships. Perhaps none of those are your case and you’re even excited about doing whatever it is, but you just can’t bring yourself to do it or find the time. Whatever the “problem”, you’re not alone – let’s figure it out together!

Today we’ll focus on the root problem, prioritizing, and taking action.ย  Grab your prayer or devotional journal and bible, curl up and let’s get into this! If you happened to miss the first Bible study on Confidence, you can check it out here! Continue reading “Cultivating Truth into Everyday Existence | Vibrant Womanhood”

Quote of the Week | #2

Inspirational Quote of the Week

I’d dare say that the implications of this week’s quote comes a little closer to home than some of us would admit, because most of us are procrastinators! ๐Ÿ™‚ Putting off until tomorrow what can and should be done today, is a bad end to the day and gives a surprisingly (if I may even use that word!) limp boost to tomorrow. You know what I’m talking about – just do it!

The Confidence of Christ | Vibrant Womanhood

Vibrant Womanhood #1Hello, ladies! I’m incredibly excited to bring you the first installment of the Vibrant Womanhood Bible study series. The first of hopefully many more to come! I will be sharing my heart, lots of scripture, prayers, and inspiration to help you live in Vibrant Womanhood! It’s also a sisterhood here, not just me talking. Let’s all join in and share our thoughts, prayers, and encouragement with one another in the comment section. Let it be a circle of Vibrant Womanhood!

Though this is specifically for ladies, guys are welcome to read along as well. Grab your your prayer or devotional journal and Bible (I will be sharing references so that you can look them up for yourself!), curl up and dig in! Continue reading “The Confidence of Christ | Vibrant Womanhood”

What to do on Valentine’s Day | Single’s Edition

Valentines Day Single EditionSomehow this fast approaching holiday (tomorrow!) is going to bring about roses, red and pink, hearts, and fuzzy feelings. It’s such an adorable time, and I’m even single. Yup, I’m not thinking about having a valentine just quite yet – I’m only seventeen, people!

I imagine there’s a lot more of you like me who are single or going to be alone on Valentine’s Day and not quite sure what to do. If this day is all about romance, and I don’t have any in my life, I may as well sit around and binge watch movies (and finish off a bag of those delectable BBQ chips in the cupboard!). While I might do that, I’d love to do something else and I’m sure you want to as well!

Don’t worry! I’ve scraped together a few ideas for you to do. Maybe, just maybe, this Valentine’s Day isn’t going to be so bad after all. In fact, it’s starting to get quite rosy. ๐Ÿ™‚

#1 Pamper Yourself

Grab a few roses, light some candles, and run a bath of herbs or your favorite bubbles. Put a few rose petals on the water to add an extra romantic atmosphere. It’s not about the “love myself” trend, but a beautiful evening of beautiful relaxation. We need those moments, you need those moments! You’ll be pampered from the tips of your toes to the crown of your head. Continue reading “What to do on Valentine’s Day | Single’s Edition”

Quote of the Week | #1

Quotes are popular, inspiration is popular, and there is certainly a reason for both! Psychology says that just by smiling, you will instantly feel a little better. I’ve even tried it to alleviate pain and it works ways faster than any medication! Inspirational quotes come in somewhere close to the smile. There are sooo many quotes out there, lists and lists of them. Not all of them are awesome, so I thought it’d be great to pick out the best ones and lighten up your heavy daily loads with a weekly quote – the ones that are like gold nuggets of inspiration and cheer!

Quote of the Week 1.jpg Continue reading “Quote of the Week | #1”

21 Ways to Stay Positive

Staying positive and feeling happy from the inside out is something that is hard to come by when we feel bored, lifeless, rejected, passionless, and the list goes on and on. You get the idea. Every day brings it’s craziness and trials and troubles. That’s a taste of life. But we don’t have to live in this zombie-like state. It is totally possibleย  to live a powerful and meaningful life. The greatest joy you can ever have in life, is when Jesus is living in you and his love just wells up within and comes out in the most beautiful ways. Jesus is beautiful and makes you beautiful. He brings healing to the most intimate parts of your soul. That’s why it’s possible to be happy even in the worst circumstances (Believe me, I’ve almost tried it. ๐Ÿ˜‰ ).

With Jesus living within us, we still have “those moments”. We’re human and completely capable of feeling grumpy and sad all over again. Circumstances can be overwhelming and it’s okay to cry. The best way to overcome pain, sadness, boredom or whatever have you, is to remind ourselves of what is the most important thing in life:

We live inย  freedom from the bondage of sin and death; free to live in the deepest and clearest love imaginable – Jesus’ love. Continue reading “21 Ways to Stay Positive”