How to Deal With Wanting Acceptance | Vibrant Womanhood

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Welcome back to another Bible study, my lovelies. I’m so delighted to see you! Grab your favorite cup of tea (or coffee), curl up in a cozy chair and join the circle of Vibrant Womanhood. Okay, so now that we’re past that stuff, let’s get to the goodies!

One of the Most Basic Things

I’d say the most sought after thing throughout time and history is the longing to be loved. It is an innate desire that each one of has within us from the day we are born whether or not we have even thought about it! From that most certainly comes the desire to be accepted. It’s perfectly natural and nothing to be ashamed of. We like to be liked (introverts too! ๐Ÿ™‚ ).

There are a lot of times throughout our days when we may feel alone, like no one cares, or don’t think we have any friends. Sometimes in pursuing God, we lose everything when others don’t understand. We all make sacrifices. “Do people think that’s weird?” “What do they think of that?” I’ve asked myself that a thousand times, wondering if those I know really think good of me. You probably have too. It’s a quite natural thing and the dooming fear of not being liked can be a quite annoying little devil.

Does it Really Matter?

Are these desires good, or are they some more of those evil desires that we are born with and can’t seem to conquer? Actually, I’d dare to say that the answer to both would be, “yes”.

God is love. It’s that simple. We long for him which also means longing for his love. We need to love and to be loved. It is so important. Where the “evil little monster” comes into the picture, is when we cause this to consume our thoughts and minds and become self-centered people who think we have to be noticed and deserve to be loved. None of us deserve it, but we desperately need it.

When You Feel That No One Accepts You. When You Think That No One is There For You.

First of all, let me kindly remind you that you are never alone. No matter how alone you are physically, Jesus is always there for you. He is still there even when He is silent. He loves each of us even before we love Him and when we love Him back! That’s amazing.

“As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love.”ย  (John 15:9)

When there truly is no one around you that cares, that may be a strong sign that it is time to move on. Time to let go of what you know and surround yourself with people that will uplift you, encourage you, and be there for you. This may be moving to a different part of the planet, but it also may mean just opening your eyes to the opportunities that are right around you. Jesus doesn’t want you to feel depressed. He wants you to be free as a bird. And that’s exactly what he’s fixing to do.

You don’t always feel that God is right there in the room, and that’s okay. Just know that He is anyway whether he’s talking or moving or sitting silent while you prepare to go answer the door. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Let’s Sum This Up

I’ve struggled with the fear of what “others think” for years. It has kept me up at night as my mind replays slightly embarrassing incidents (why do those moments plague me forever? ๐Ÿ˜‰ ). I would lay there and pray that that person (or persons) wasn’t weirded out. I hated this and wished I could just change myself to be like everyone else. (They didn’t do anything embarrassing – ahem- cough- they probably thought they did!). In the end, God is good and looking back I know for a fact that those things actually pushed me to achieve greater heights in my passions and I’m better off for it. Nonetheless, I would love not to have to struggle to get there. ๐Ÿ˜‰

When we’re not accepted for doing a certain thing or believing certain things, or just being, that hurts. Let’s be real. I can’t change the next person (annoyingly enough! ) and it’s a good thing or it’d mean they had the power to change me.

I’m not going to tell you to ignore the pain and I’m definitely not going to tell you to “just get over it”. That’s nearly impossible and doesn’t help a thing. You can pray for that person, give them a smile or a hug, or whatever you know you can do. Be Jesus to them in whatever way you can. If they don’t seem to notice the effort, that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that it was useless. If nothing else, it can help us heal to do something sweet for a person who is sour.

And if you ever need a listening ear to rant, cry, or just talk random heart things to, shoot me an e-mail. I’m here, and I know many other women of the faith that would always accept you no matter what you’re like. That’s the beauty of what Jesus does. It’s not just you and me – it’s all of us! We’re here together in spirit, connected by the unity of God, family always and forever!

Have a beautiful rest of your week!

xoxo

Melody

 

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How to deal with wanting exceptance

Quote of the Week | #4 & #5

Hey ya’ll! Here I am back from a little blogging break. I wasn’t planning to stay away forever in case you were starting to worry! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Blogging actually takes a surprising amount of brain energy. But I say it’s totally worth if I can help ya’ll live better and more beautiful lives… and now I’m back quite prepared, refreshed, and energized. We have to take care ourselves in order to help others. It’s important.

Sooo… Quote of the Week, here we are again! Even better, we have two quotes for this week which are quite related. Need inspiration to get off your lazy bum and just do it? Read on! ๐Ÿ˜€

Quote of the Week

I can’t agree more! Actually, that’s why I’m back. We can’t always wait around for that “perfect” moment. Sometimes Jesus has to give me a little nudge (ahem – okay, maybe more than a little… ๐Ÿ˜‰ ). Don’t let that little blue underlined word in the quote below hold you back. Stick it under your chair and leave it there! Continue reading “Quote of the Week | #4 & #5”

A Glimpse into My Novel: Journey to Love

A Glimpse into my NovelIt’s been quite a long while since I’ve given you an update about the book I’m writing, Journey to Love. You can read that post here! At the time I was fighting writer’s block and pretty much laid the book aside for a while. Recently, I have found renewed inspiration to complete the novel and get it where it’s supposed to go: into your hands. Part 1 is complete and Part 2 (definitely the longest!) is well under way.

Coming from upbringings of pain and rejection, Kirk and Julie discover a love that is far deeper than anything they ever imagined, and redemption far greater than they had ever wished for. They were good people, but God had called them to be great. Through the trial and testing of their relationship, they found forgiveness, love and freedom. The same freedom that sets sunsets on flame and turns the world upside; the powerful hand of God.

In anticipation of this book’s release (which is still months off), I am giving a glimpse and taste of what is coming.

It is (ah – will be) a great resource for teenagers and adults alike to rejoice in the beauty of life and be a fresh reminder of the most powerful force which is love – Jesus’ love! Continue reading “A Glimpse into My Novel: Journey to Love”

The Confidence of Christ | Vibrant Womanhood

Vibrant Womanhood #1Hello, ladies! I’m incredibly excited to bring you the first installment of the Vibrant Womanhood Bible study series. The first of hopefully many more to come! I will be sharing my heart, lots of scripture, prayers, and inspiration to help you live in Vibrant Womanhood! It’s also a sisterhood here, not just me talking. Let’s all join in and share our thoughts, prayers, and encouragement with one another in the comment section. Let it be a circle of Vibrant Womanhood!

Though this is specifically for ladies, guys are welcome to read along as well. Grab your your prayer or devotional journal and Bible (I will be sharing references so that you can look them up for yourself!), curl up and dig in! Continue reading “The Confidence of Christ | Vibrant Womanhood”

Quote of the Week | #1

Quotes are popular, inspiration is popular, and there is certainly a reason for both! Psychology says that just by smiling, you will instantly feel a little better. I’ve even tried it to alleviate pain and it works ways faster than any medication! Inspirational quotes come in somewhere close to the smile. There are sooo many quotes out there, lists and lists of them. Not all of them are awesome, so I thought it’d be great to pick out the best ones and lighten up your heavy daily loads with a weekly quote – the ones that are like gold nuggets of inspiration and cheer!

Quote of the Week 1.jpg Continue reading “Quote of the Week | #1”

21 Ways to Stay Positive

Staying positive and feeling happy from the inside out is something that is hard to come by when we feel bored, lifeless, rejected, passionless, and the list goes on and on. You get the idea. Every day brings it’s craziness and trials and troubles. That’s a taste of life. But we don’t have to live in this zombie-like state. It is totally possibleย  to live a powerful and meaningful life. The greatest joy you can ever have in life, is when Jesus is living in you and his love just wells up within and comes out in the most beautiful ways. Jesus is beautiful and makes you beautiful. He brings healing to the most intimate parts of your soul. That’s why it’s possible to be happy even in the worst circumstances (Believe me, I’ve almost tried it. ๐Ÿ˜‰ ).

With Jesus living within us, we still have “those moments”. We’re human and completely capable of feeling grumpy and sad all over again. Circumstances can be overwhelming and it’s okay to cry. The best way to overcome pain, sadness, boredom or whatever have you, is to remind ourselves of what is the most important thing in life:

We live inย  freedom from the bondage of sin and death; free to live in the deepest and clearest love imaginable – Jesus’ love. Continue reading “21 Ways to Stay Positive”

Top 10 Posts of 2017

Happy New Year, ya’ll! I’m super excited about 2018. I’m not much for ” new year resolutions” since I always fail them within three days. However this year, I’m doing something a little different. I’ve written down all my goals for 2018. Being able to look at the list as something to work towards rather than to change myself for is a much more inspiring focus! ๐Ÿ™‚

2017 has been a great year over all. Yes, each year holds it’s own trials and troubles, but they dim when compared to all that we’ve learned, accomplished, and experienced. While I want to get on with the new year, I thought it’d be great to take a peak at the most loved blog posts of 2017. Which ones made it into the top 10? Check them out below! Continue reading “Top 10 Posts of 2017”

This Little Life of Mine

This Little Life

This little life,

I live on this earth below,

So often torn and filled with strife.

The rugged cross once stood so tall,

It carried the burden of the world,

For Jesus was dying, dying for all.

Oh such pain he had to bear!

Alone with two thieves,

He bled and died to take away my sin.

And then triumphantly he rose. Continue reading “This Little Life of Mine”

One Year Blogiversary!

Today marks the one year anniversary of LoveNotes! I’m so excited with how far we’ve come, and how far we’ll go in this next year. I have learned so much through blogging. Being a steady blogger is certainly not for the faint of heart and I must admit that sticking to a schedule is something I try to accomplish but regularly fail doing.

If you were given the chance, what is the one thing you would improve, change, or love about this blog? I’m giving you the chance to say it! I would absolutely love to hear your opinions in the comment section below! While this blog is my outlet, it is ultimately for you guys and the glory of God.

You all are awesome for joining me throughout this first year of trial and error. I have many goals and dreams for this blog and only time will tell what happens. ๐Ÿ˜‰

My quote for this year hits me right between the eyes every I time I read it. I tend to be a little too timid and afraid of what others will think.

โ€œIf you are doing it for the glory of God, then why are you hiding it in your drawer?โ€

(#IWillBeBold)

 

New Song: God’s Hurting Child

We have heard of God as a Father and we as his children (the “sons of God”). How often do we think of it in that way in our hearts? Many know a Father as someone who doesn’t particularly care about them and perhaps is even angry and abusive. They don’t know what the real love of a dad can look like. When it comes to God, they don’t understand how he could be so good and be like a father.

But God really does show us what fathers should be like. In a fallen, broken, and imperfect world, we feel alone and sometimes hurt. In our brokenness we may lash out at God. But He isn’t standing there indifferently. He’s waiting with outstretched hands, waiting for us to come to him, to want him, and ask him to forgive us. My dear friend, he will forgive you and give you the most amazing peace and joy you’ve ever experienced; strength to conquer the trials in life. Continue reading “New Song: God’s Hurting Child”