How to Deal With Wanting Acceptance | Vibrant Womanhood

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Welcome back to another Bible study, my lovelies. I’m so delighted to see you! Grab your favorite cup of tea (or coffee), curl up in a cozy chair and join the circle of Vibrant Womanhood. Okay, so now that we’re past that stuff, let’s get to the goodies!

One of the Most Basic Things

I’d say the most sought after thing throughout time and history is the longing to be loved. It is an innate desire that each one of has within us from the day we are born whether or not we have even thought about it! From that most certainly comes the desire to be accepted. It’s perfectly natural and nothing to be ashamed of. We like to be liked (introverts too! 🙂 ).

There are a lot of times throughout our days when we may feel alone, like no one cares, or don’t think we have any friends. Sometimes in pursuing God, we lose everything when others don’t understand. We all make sacrifices. “Do people think that’s weird?” “What do they think of that?” I’ve asked myself that a thousand times, wondering if those I know really think good of me. You probably have too. It’s a quite natural thing and the dooming fear of not being liked can be a quite annoying little devil.

Does it Really Matter?

Are these desires good, or are they some more of those evil desires that we are born with and can’t seem to conquer? Actually, I’d dare to say that the answer to both would be, “yes”.

God is love. It’s that simple. We long for him which also means longing for his love. We need to love and to be loved. It is so important. Where the “evil little monster” comes into the picture, is when we cause this to consume our thoughts and minds and become self-centered people who think we have to be noticed and deserve to be loved. None of us deserve it, but we desperately need it.

When You Feel That No One Accepts You. When You Think That No One is There For You.

First of all, let me kindly remind you that you are never alone. No matter how alone you are physically, Jesus is always there for you. He is still there even when He is silent. He loves each of us even before we love Him and when we love Him back! That’s amazing.

“As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love.”  (John 15:9)

When there truly is no one around you that cares, that may be a strong sign that it is time to move on. Time to let go of what you know and surround yourself with people that will uplift you, encourage you, and be there for you. This may be moving to a different part of the planet, but it also may mean just opening your eyes to the opportunities that are right around you. Jesus doesn’t want you to feel depressed. He wants you to be free as a bird. And that’s exactly what he’s fixing to do.

You don’t always feel that God is right there in the room, and that’s okay. Just know that He is anyway whether he’s talking or moving or sitting silent while you prepare to go answer the door. 😉

Let’s Sum This Up

I’ve struggled with the fear of what “others think” for years. It has kept me up at night as my mind replays slightly embarrassing incidents (why do those moments plague me forever? 😉 ). I would lay there and pray that that person (or persons) wasn’t weirded out. I hated this and wished I could just change myself to be like everyone else. (They didn’t do anything embarrassing – ahem- cough- they probably thought they did!). In the end, God is good and looking back I know for a fact that those things actually pushed me to achieve greater heights in my passions and I’m better off for it. Nonetheless, I would love not to have to struggle to get there. 😉

When we’re not accepted for doing a certain thing or believing certain things, or just being, that hurts. Let’s be real. I can’t change the next person (annoyingly enough! ) and it’s a good thing or it’d mean they had the power to change me.

I’m not going to tell you to ignore the pain and I’m definitely not going to tell you to “just get over it”. That’s nearly impossible and doesn’t help a thing. You can pray for that person, give them a smile or a hug, or whatever you know you can do. Be Jesus to them in whatever way you can. If they don’t seem to notice the effort, that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that it was useless. If nothing else, it can help us heal to do something sweet for a person who is sour.

And if you ever need a listening ear to rant, cry, or just talk random heart things to, shoot me an e-mail. I’m here, and I know many other women of the faith that would always accept you no matter what you’re like. That’s the beauty of what Jesus does. It’s not just you and me – it’s all of us! We’re here together in spirit, connected by the unity of God, family always and forever!

Have a beautiful rest of your week!

xoxo

Melody

 

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Finding the Strength to Endure Anything| Vibrant Womanhood

All right, let’s get on with today’s study, shall we?


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I’m still figuring out the life God has called me to. Not because I don’t have vision or focus, but because each day has it’s own little twists and turns. Opportunities appear out of nowhere and others disappear just as fast. So in other words, it’s important to take each step one at a time and not try to bite onto more than God is giving us. Yeah, I’m one of those guilty parties!

I just love having everything figured out. Literally months and years all planned out exactly what I’m going to do and where I’m going to be. And while some of it certainly works out, more often than not, a curve ball comes my way and I’m left standing there wandering what on earth is going to happen next. It keeps life interesting! 😉 Continue reading “Finding the Strength to Endure Anything| Vibrant Womanhood”

The Confidence of Christ | Vibrant Womanhood

Vibrant Womanhood #1Hello, ladies! I’m incredibly excited to bring you the first installment of the Vibrant Womanhood Bible study series. The first of hopefully many more to come! I will be sharing my heart, lots of scripture, prayers, and inspiration to help you live in Vibrant Womanhood! It’s also a sisterhood here, not just me talking. Let’s all join in and share our thoughts, prayers, and encouragement with one another in the comment section. Let it be a circle of Vibrant Womanhood!

Though this is specifically for ladies, guys are welcome to read along as well. Grab your your prayer or devotional journal and Bible (I will be sharing references so that you can look them up for yourself!), curl up and dig in! Continue reading “The Confidence of Christ | Vibrant Womanhood”

This Little Life of Mine

This Little Life

This little life,

I live on this earth below,

So often torn and filled with strife.

The rugged cross once stood so tall,

It carried the burden of the world,

For Jesus was dying, dying for all.

Oh such pain he had to bear!

Alone with two thieves,

He bled and died to take away my sin.

And then triumphantly he rose. Continue reading “This Little Life of Mine”

A Letter From My Father

Dear child,

You are not alone. Sometimes it may feel that way, but I will always be there to forgive, comfort, and heal you. It breaks my heart to see your pain, but I can’t take it away until you give it up. As long as you hold onto your heart, your life will be out of control. If you trust your life to me, your life will become a beautiful work of love; woven perfectly by my hands.

I have seen your fear; your worry that you will miss open doors or open ones that aren’t meant for you. Leave that to me.  All the doors that aren’t for you, are firmly locked and bolted.  My timing is perfect. You will not accidentally mess up my will for you.

I give you the choice to hand the key of your heart to me. I promise to always protect and cherish you. In me, you will always find the love you long for. In me, there is always true peace and freedom.

With Love,

Your Heavenly Father

My Testimony – The Full Version

As I said in a recent post, I felt strongly prompted to share my story. I did a very short version on The Day I Finally Gave Up. Here’s the long version. I can’t believe that I’m sharing this with you all, just to be perfectly honest. It makes me feel very vulnerable because it’s a very personal thing to me. 🙂

I may be only sixteen, but God has worked so much in my life. I have seen his power and felt his love in a true and personal way and I want to share that story with you. I’m not sure how to describe it all, but I’ll do my best. Continue reading “My Testimony – The Full Version”

Lord Jesus, This is Our Prayer (My First Ever Choral Composition)

After a very long (although, yet surprisingly short) year, I have finally completed my first choral composition. Starting out as a four part hymn, it includes a men’s verse and finishes with eight parts.

I kind of stepped out by writing two descants. The reason for that originally was because I wanted the highest to reach up to a D6 (which, for those who are wondering, is the first D above the treble staff). Most sopranos can’t do that so I added a second descant. Somehow in the editing process, they both got lowered, it’s better that way (maybe 😉 ). Continue reading “Lord Jesus, This is Our Prayer (My First Ever Choral Composition)”

From the Best Day of My Life {Pictures}

Which was the best day of my life? Easter. Yes, Easter of this very year. You can read why here. Actually, that post was written the day before, so I’ll explain a bit more. The reason Easter was so special, was because I had finally given everything up to God and learned who He really is. I could finally celebrate his resurrection with energy and zeal. No pangs from a guilty conscience.  Continue reading “From the Best Day of My Life {Pictures}”

The Day I Finally Gave Up

I had hit the bottom. Literally. For weeks, I’d been struggling, trying to balance a myriad of responsibilities, financial problems, and a ton of various pressures (both perceived and real).

Most of the time, I was able to keep up-beat. But every once in a while, exhaustion over-whelmed me, and I would spiral downward into a pit of despair. To add to the mess, I was trying to cope with some ongoing health issues that only added worry and affected my sleep. Not good.

It all came crashing on my head, when I figured up my taxes. I didn’t even have that much in my bank account! Fortunately, I do have some cash saved back in hopes of buying a piano some day. But anyway, Good Friday evening, I had a splitting headache. I felt terrible. I was so desperate, I asked my mom to come to my room, and we had a really, really good talk. I was finally able to spill out all that I had been feeling for the past months. It was so good. Continue reading “The Day I Finally Gave Up”

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas to all my wonderful readers!

In my little corner of the world, there is much joy at the remembrance our dear Saviour’s birth so many years ago. I hope there is a spark of this peace and happiness in each of your homes and hearts wherever you are on this planet.

As you celebrate this great day of joy, remember why He came. Not to take over the world, or show off, but to show us what a godly life looks like, lived out, and then He died a horrible death to be a perfect sacrifice for our sins that any one who believes in Him is saved. With His Spirit in our hearts, we no longer need to fear death. Isn’t that incredible? And that is what all this feasting and merriment is all about! So I encourage you to live this day in celebration  of Him, remembering the true “reason for the season”!

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