How to Deal With Wanting Acceptance | Vibrant Womanhood

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Welcome back to another Bible study, my lovelies. I’m so delighted to see you! Grab your favorite cup of tea (or coffee), curl up in a cozy chair and join the circle of Vibrant Womanhood. Okay, so now that we’re past that stuff, let’s get to the goodies!

One of the Most Basic Things

I’d say the most sought after thing throughout time and history is the longing to be loved. It is an innate desire that each one of has within us from the day we are born whether or not we have even thought about it! From that most certainly comes the desire to be accepted. It’s perfectly natural and nothing to be ashamed of. We like to be liked (introverts too! πŸ™‚ ).

There are a lot of times throughout our days when we may feel alone, like no one cares, or don’t think we have any friends. Sometimes in pursuing God, we lose everything when others don’t understand. We all make sacrifices. “Do people think that’s weird?” “What do they think of that?” I’ve asked myself that a thousand times, wondering if those I know really think good of me. You probably have too. It’s a quite natural thing and the dooming fear of not being liked can be a quite annoying little devil.

Does it Really Matter?

Are these desires good, or are they some more of those evil desires that we are born with and can’t seem to conquer? Actually, I’d dare to say that the answer to both would be, “yes”.

God is love. It’s that simple. We long for him which also means longing for his love. We need to love and to be loved. It is so important. Where the “evil little monster” comes into the picture, is when we cause this to consume our thoughts and minds and become self-centered people who think we have to be noticed and deserve to be loved. None of us deserve it, but we desperately need it.

When You Feel That No One Accepts You. When You Think That No One is There For You.

First of all, let me kindly remind you that you are never alone. No matter how alone you are physically, Jesus is always there for you. He is still there even when He is silent. He loves each of us even before we love Him and when we love Him back! That’s amazing.

“As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love.”Β  (John 15:9)

When there truly is no one around you that cares, that may be a strong sign that it is time to move on. Time to let go of what you know and surround yourself with people that will uplift you, encourage you, and be there for you. This may be moving to a different part of the planet, but it also may mean just opening your eyes to the opportunities that are right around you. Jesus doesn’t want you to feel depressed. He wants you to be free as a bird. And that’s exactly what he’s fixing to do.

You don’t always feel that God is right there in the room, and that’s okay. Just know that He is anyway whether he’s talking or moving or sitting silent while you prepare to go answer the door. πŸ˜‰

Let’s Sum This Up

I’ve struggled with the fear of what “others think” for years. It has kept me up at night as my mind replays slightly embarrassing incidents (why do those moments plague me forever? πŸ˜‰ ). I would lay there and pray that that person (or persons) wasn’t weirded out. I hated this and wished I could just change myself to be like everyone else. (They didn’t do anything embarrassing – ahem- cough- they probably thought they did!). In the end, God is good and looking back I know for a fact that those things actually pushed me to achieve greater heights in my passions and I’m better off for it. Nonetheless, I would love not to have to struggle to get there. πŸ˜‰

When we’re not accepted for doing a certain thing or believing certain things, or just being, that hurts. Let’s be real. I can’t change the next person (annoyingly enough! ) and it’s a good thing or it’d mean they had the power to change me.

I’m not going to tell you to ignore the pain and I’m definitely not going to tell you to “just get over it”. That’s nearly impossible and doesn’t help a thing. You can pray for that person, give them a smile or a hug, or whatever you know you can do. Be Jesus to them in whatever way you can. If they don’t seem to notice the effort, that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that it was useless. If nothing else, it can help us heal to do something sweet for a person who is sour.

And if you ever need a listening ear to rant, cry, or just talk random heart things to, shoot me an e-mail. I’m here, and I know many other women of the faith that would always accept you no matter what you’re like. That’s the beauty of what Jesus does. It’s not just you and me – it’s all of us! We’re here together in spirit, connected by the unity of God, family always and forever!

Have a beautiful rest of your week!

xoxo

Melody

 

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How to deal with wanting exceptance

A Glimpse into My Novel: Journey to Love

A Glimpse into my NovelIt’s been quite a long while since I’ve given you an update about the book I’m writing, Journey to Love. You can read that post here! At the time I was fighting writer’s block and pretty much laid the book aside for a while. Recently, I have found renewed inspiration to complete the novel and get it where it’s supposed to go: into your hands. Part 1 is complete and Part 2 (definitely the longest!) is well under way.

Coming from upbringings of pain and rejection, Kirk and Julie discover a love that is far deeper than anything they ever imagined, and redemption far greater than they had ever wished for. They were good people, but God had called them to be great. Through the trial and testing of their relationship, they found forgiveness, love and freedom. The same freedom that sets sunsets on flame and turns the world upside; the powerful hand of God.

In anticipation of this book’s release (which is still months off), I am giving a glimpse and taste of what is coming.

It is (ah – will be) a great resource for teenagers and adults alike to rejoice in the beauty of life and be a fresh reminder of the most powerful force which is love – Jesus’ love! Continue reading “A Glimpse into My Novel: Journey to Love”

Quote of the Week | #3

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Hmm… how many times do we catch ourselves being grumpy because someone else is grumpy? Uh-huh, thought so. Now let’s switch that around. How many times do you smile when you see someone else smile? It works both ways! They’re both very contagious – just saying. πŸ™‚

(Did you just smile? πŸ˜‰ )

What are the things you do to change your corner of the world (even the small things are big enough!)?

 

What to do on Valentine’s Day | Single’s Edition

Valentines Day Single EditionSomehow this fast approaching holiday (tomorrow!) is going to bring about roses, red and pink, hearts, and fuzzy feelings. It’s such an adorable time, and I’m even single. Yup, I’m not thinking about having a valentine just quite yet – I’m only seventeen, people!

I imagine there’s a lot more of you like me who are single or going to be alone on Valentine’s Day and not quite sure what to do. If this day is all about romance, and I don’t have any in my life, I may as well sit around and binge watch movies (and finish off a bag of those delectable BBQ chips in the cupboard!). While I might do that, I’d love to do something else and I’m sure you want to as well!

Don’t worry! I’ve scraped together a few ideas for you to do. Maybe, just maybe, this Valentine’s Day isn’t going to be so bad after all. In fact, it’s starting to get quite rosy. πŸ™‚

#1 Pamper Yourself

Grab a few roses, light some candles, and run a bath of herbs or your favorite bubbles. Put a few rose petals on the water to add an extra romantic atmosphere. It’s not about the “love myself” trend, but a beautiful evening of beautiful relaxation. We need those moments, you need those moments! You’ll be pampered from the tips of your toes to the crown of your head. Continue reading “What to do on Valentine’s Day | Single’s Edition”

A Letter From My Father

Dear child,

You are not alone. Sometimes it may feel that way, but I will always be there to forgive, comfort, and heal you. It breaks my heart to see your pain, but I can’t take it away until you give it up. As long as you hold onto your heart, your life will be out of control. If you trust your life to me, your life will become a beautiful work of love; woven perfectly by my hands.

I have seen your fear; your worry that you will miss open doors or open ones that aren’t meant for you. Leave that to me.Β  All the doors that aren’t for you, are firmly locked and bolted.Β  My timing is perfect. You will not accidentally mess up my will for you.

I give you the choice to hand the key of your heart to me. I promise to always protect and cherish you. In me, you will always find the love you long for. In me, there is always true peace and freedom.

With Love,

Your Heavenly Father

The One Word of Kindness Challenge

I’m not the person to go around chewing on people. When I hurt other people, I feel it. But sometimes what stings more that a harsh word is silence. People begin to wonder if you think that they or what they do is boring, not good enough, or silly. I’ve certainly been in that spot. That feeling that no matter what I did, it went unnoticed. We’ve all been there at some point. And all we wanted was a word of encouragement, affirmation, or just a kind word that told us that we were thought of.

The One Word of Kindness Challenge

Okay, so since we all understand the feeling of being alone, hurt, or mistrusted, let’s turn that around. We can’t really change what other people say to us, but we can change what we say to others. Each word we speak is our own choice. Continue reading “The One Word of Kindness Challenge”

Kitten Pictures {2017}

Our family has had cats since the time I was four. We had an enormous problem with rats eating the chicken feed and someone told us we should get a mama cat. So we did, or, two mama cats that is, and two kittens.

I absolutely love cats. They’re my little buddies that shadow me around. As a fact, I’ve been dubbed “the cat girl” by some people. Continue reading “Kitten Pictures {2017}”

The Day I Finally Gave Up

I had hit the bottom. Literally. For weeks, I’d been struggling, trying to balance a myriad of responsibilities, financial problems, and a ton of various pressures (both perceived and real).

Most of the time, I was able to keep up-beat. But every once in a while, exhaustion over-whelmed me, and I would spiral downward into a pit of despair. To add to the mess, I was trying to cope with some ongoing health issues that only added worry and affected my sleep. Not good.

It all came crashing on my head, when I figured up my taxes. I didn’t even have that much in my bank account! Fortunately, I do have some cash saved back in hopes of buying a piano some day. But anyway, Good Friday evening, I had a splitting headache. I felt terrible. I was so desperate, I asked my mom to come to my room, and we had a really, really good talk. I was finally able to spill out all that I had been feeling for the past months. It was so good. Continue reading “The Day I Finally Gave Up”